The Coach Ratner Podcast

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Imagine if maintaining love in our relationships was as simple as remembering to reapply sunscreen! In this episode, we explore the concept of "sunscreen love," drawing parallels between relationship care and skincare routines. With personal stories and a catchy tune, we highlight how compliments can act like SPF, protecting the love between partners, while criticism can cause it to burn. As divorce rates climb, we emphasize the need to nurture love and upgrade our relationships to sustain that fiery passion and deep connection. We'll also walk you through the four phases of love, offering insights that aim to build lasting partnerships amidst modern life's hurdles.Education prepares us for many things, but how often do we learn the crucial art of listening? Through humorous anecdotes and personal reflections, we stress the importance of listening as an undervalued skill, particularly among men, and its significance beyond just romantic encounters. By sharing my own experiences, including the realization that listening is as much of an art as public speaking, we aim to shift the focus onto this essential skill. We also address the need to prepare for the lifelong journey of marriage, rather than just the wedding day, by understanding the true essence of love and marriage beyond the initial infatuation.Navigating the terrain of dating and marriage can be complex, and it goes far beyond first impressions and physical attraction. We delve into the "three date rule" and how it might just reveal more than meets the eye, urging listeners to look beyond superficial qualities to find shared values and meaningful goals. You'll hear personal tales, like mine of transitioning to a religious lifestyle post-marriage, illustrating the importance of shared life goals. By introducing the "Four A's"—attention, affection, appreciation, and awareness—we showcase how respect and emotional connections are crucial for a thriving relationship. As we explore emotional connection and the motivations behind infidelity, we wrap up with heartfelt advice and a blessing, hoping to guide our listeners toward passionate, loving relationships.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Ever wondered why teenagers today are grappling with low self-esteem more than ever? Join us in a conversation with Coach Ratner as we tackle this pressing issue head-on. You'll hear firsthand about his personal journey through self-esteem challenges, sparked by societal pressures and the perilous cycle of comparison that can dampen one's self-worth. Through anecdotes like his dream of becoming a professional pianist, Ratner sheds light on how to break free and embrace your own unique light. His new book, "Never Feel Loved Again: Symptoms and Strategies to Cure Low Self-Esteem," serves as a beacon of hope for anyone trapped in self-doubt.Navigating social landscapes online and offline can be a minefield for self-esteem. With Coach Ratner's guidance, we dissect the subtle yet significant ways our interactions affect how we feel about ourselves. Are name-dropping and humble bragging really just cries for help? We explore the complexities of sharing personal milestones on social media, emphasizing the importance of mindfulness and empathy. This episode encourages listeners to build their self-esteem from within, rather than seeking approval from the world around them, creating a supportive and nurturing environment for all.In a journey towards genuine happiness and self-worth, Coach Ratner emphasizes the role of boundaries, forgiveness, and vulnerability. He reflects on life events that paved the way for profound personal growth, highlighting the importance of living with purpose and gratitude. We even delve into the spiritual realm, discussing how connecting with God through prayer can fortify self-esteem and instill a sense of divine support. Prepare to be inspired as we uncover strategies to safeguard your emotional well-being and empower yourself to make a meaningful impact on the world.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!What if the key to feeling truly loved lies in how we communicate with the divine? Join us on the Learning and Clarity Podcast as we share stories and insights from our audiobook series, "Never Feel Unloved Again," where we tackle the complex themes of prayer and divine recognition. We recount a personal narrative about the imperfections in organized religion and the essential objectives of prayer—help, guidance, and gratitude. Through captivating storytelling, we illuminate God's role in everyday miracles and emphasize the importance of building a strong, intimate relationship with the divine, much like the close bonds that inspire heroic acts of love and support.Gain clarity and purpose in your prayer life as we navigate through the four critical questions represented by MEET: Motivation, Effort, Expectations, and Transform. Discover how aligning your motivations with personal growth and divine wisdom can amplify your spiritual journey. Reflect on the nuances of praying aloud versus internally, fostering sincerity and intentionality in your practice. By embracing personal initiative alongside divine aid, this episode promises practical wisdom and profound reflections that can elevate your spiritual connection and enrich your life.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!What happens when love and tragedy intersect with faith? Imagine the unwavering dedication of a babysitter who loves your children as her own—could this mirror the divine love we often seek in times of hardship? Join us on the Living Clarity Podcast as we explore these intriguing parallels and tackle the age-old question of why bad things happen to good people. Through personal anecdotes and profound reflections, we unravel the emotional complexities behind perceived disbelief and anger toward God, using rich examples from Jewish culture, including the profound teachings of Yom Kippur, to guide our exploration.In another enlightening segment, we uncover the transformative potential of prayer in building self-esteem. What if the key to true contentment lies in shedding envy and ego? Discover how embracing gratitude and humility can lead to a fulfilling life, and learn about the REPEAT framework—a practical tool designed to enhance your prayer practice and personal growth. As we journey together, we prepare to dive deeper into the upcoming audiobook segment of "Never Feel Unloved Again," promising insights that will guide you towards a more meaningful and self-aware life.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Could exercise be the key to unlocking greater self-esteem and mental clarity? This episode promises to uncover the transformative power of physical activity and spirituality in shaping our mental well-being. We explore how today's sedentary lifestyle starkly contrasts with the physically demanding lives of the past, often leaving us vulnerable to mental health struggles. Examining studies by Dr. David Linden, we discuss how regular aerobic exercise, like running or brisk walking, releases natural chemicals such as dopamine and endocannabinoids. These compounds not only enhance mood and combat depression but also boost memory and focus, helping to slow cognitive decline. Whether you're an avid runner or someone looking to make a change, this conversation illustrates the profound impact exercise can have on self-esteem and overall health.What role does spirituality play in boosting self-confidence and personal fulfillment? We unravel this intriguing link by examining the impact of prayer and meditation on our sense of self. Discover how embracing spirituality or religion, even without concrete evidence, can foster a connection to something greater, offering tranquility and enhancing personal relationships. From understanding gender differences in spirituality to the importance of embracing belief, our discussion offers valuable insights into nurturing a relationship with a higher power. This journey encourages a shift in mindset, highlighting how prayer can serve as a bridge to a fulfilling, non-religious relationship with God, ultimately fostering love and gratitude towards oneself and others.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Unlock the keys to living a more fulfilled life with the Living in Clarity Podcast. Ever wonder how setting the right goals could boost your self-esteem and dispel feelings of being unloved? Discover how the SMART goal framework can transform your life, as I share how it enriched my journey from marathon training to enhanced creativity. You'll learn the secret sauce to success: the three Ds—desire, determination, and discipline—and get actionable steps for setting and achieving your goals. Dive into the art of breaking down your ambitions into manageable tasks, maintaining motivation through flexibility, and making goal-setting a joyful process. But that's not all. Life isn't just about goals—it's also about fun and creativity. Explore the magic of turning everyday tasks into thrilling adventures, whether it's cooking barefoot or racing your kids up the stairs. Discover how positivity can breathe new life into mundane activities, elevating your self-worth in the process. We also touch on the profound impact of synchronization and teamwork, showing how being part of a winning team can skyrocket your self-esteem. Whether you're setting goals for future pleasure or balancing life's pain-pleasure scale, this episode is a treasure trove of insights and stories that promise to uplift and inspire. Join me, Coach Ratner, as we unlock the joy of living in clarity.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Unlock the keys to bolstering your self-esteem with Coach Ratner on this enlightening episode of the Living in Clarity podcast. Ever wondered why achieving more doesn't always translate to feeling better? Join us as we explore transformative strategies like practicing gratitude and rejection therapy, which can significantly enhance your self-worth. We promise you'll gain a deeper understanding of how recognizing and valuing your inherent attributes, which often go unnoticed, can enrich your life immensely. Discover the powerful impact of making a list of non-material blessings and learn why facing rejection head-on—such as greeting strangers—can actually boost your confidence and resilience.Journey with us as we discuss the importance of breaking away from familiar environments to foster personal growth. Drawing a parallel to how a cactus thrives in its natural habitat, we encourage you to step out of your comfort zone to realize your true potential. Coach Ratner shares anecdotes from teaching experiences in diverse settings like Jerusalem and Maryland, illustrating how new environments can supercharge learning and personal development. Additionally, we dive into the empowering effects of continuous learning on self-esteem. By embracing lifelong education and personal development, you can cultivate a fulfilling future brimming with confidence and self-worth. Tune in to transform your approach to self-esteem and personal growth today.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!What if you could shield yourself from draining influences and truly thrive in your personal and emotional life? Join me, Coach Ratner, on the Living Clarity Podcast as we unlock the secrets to protecting your self-esteem and well-being from emotional vampires and negative external forces. This episode shines a light on the subtle yet profound impact of our surroundings—from the people we keep close to the media we consume. Discover how to recognize and manage the five types of emotional vampires: the victim, the narcissist, the drama queen, the socially awkward, and certain relatives or in-laws. With practical strategies to create a nurturing environment, we explore ways to set boundaries and foster positivity that fuels your happiness.Take a closer look at how media and marketing play into our insecurities, often chipping away at our self-esteem by projecting unrealistic narratives. By embracing our core values and understanding their evolution, we learn to make choices that reflect our true selves. We discuss the power of saying no, the value of critical thinking, and living a life aligned with what genuinely matters. Embark on this journey with us, empowering yourself to craft an authentic life that's resilient against external pressures and full of self-worth. Listen in, and start building your metaphorical fence around happiness today.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Discover how to construct a protective barrier around your personal happiness and self-esteem with insights from Dr. Jane Anderson. We'll uncover the roots of low self-esteem, particularly how family dynamics and parental influence can shape a child's emotional health. Learn the importance of providing unconditional love and understanding the unique motivations of your children to nurture their self-worth. We explore the impact of divorce on children, the pressures of youth sports, and how to support your children in a way that ensures their self-value isn't solely tied to their achievements.In this empowering episode, we share personal stories and techniques to cultivate resilience, forgiveness, and self-acceptance. Join us as we tackle the influence of social media and consumerism on our self-esteem, highlighting the significance of finding inner contentment rather than seeking external validation. Embrace the journey toward self-love and acceptance, understanding that true happiness stems from within. By fostering these qualities, we aim to equip you with strategies to break the cycle of low self-esteem, promoting emotional well-being for both yourself and future generations.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Explore the profound influence of our words and actions on self-esteem and social dynamics with us on the Living in Clarity Podcast. What if a simple smile could change someone's day, or a careless comment could linger for years? Join Coach Ratner as we navigate the power of facial expressions, the pitfalls of name-dropping, and the often unnoticed impact of the "you-don't-know-so-and-so" phenomenon. Together, we'll uncover how these seemingly small gestures can ripple through our lives, affecting both our self-worth and the people around us. By embracing compassion and understanding, we can learn to navigate social interactions with greater empathy, especially when dealing with individuals who might be socially unaware.Shift your perspective on social media as we discuss its unintended role in fostering envy and jealousy. From luxury vacations to college acceptances, the online world often paints a picture of success that can undermine self-esteem for those who lack similar opportunities. We dive into the art of sharing personal achievements with sensitivity and awareness, emphasizing the importance of empathy in our digital interactions. By being mindful of how we present our milestones, we can foster a community built on support and understanding, rather than competition. Tune in to discover how self-awareness and positive interactions can lead to a more compassionate and connected world.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Criticism is often a hidden reflection of one's own self-esteem struggles, a realization I came to with some wise guidance from my wife. Throughout this episode, I open up about my personal journey from being overly critical to adopting a more compassionate approach, underscoring how this transformation improved my relationships, especially within my family. We shed light on the insidious nature of gossip and its roots in personal dissatisfaction, advocating for internal happiness as a defense against these negative behaviors. Join me as we navigate the delicate balance between offering constructive feedback and nurturing a loving, respectful environment both at home and in broader social circles. Switching gears, we explore the fascinating world of body modifications and their intricate dance with self-esteem. Tattoos, bold hair colors, and piercings are more than just fashion statements; they can signify deeper emotional battles or a quest for acceptance. Together, we question whether these trends are merely expressions of individuality or responses to societal pressures. Through examining the health risks and cultural influences surrounding these choices, we delve into the broader conversation about self-perception, even tackling the weighty topic of cosmetic surgery. This episode encourages a thoughtful reflection on how we choose to present ourselves to the world and what truly drives those decisions.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Imagine living your life constantly seeking approval from others, even if it means sacrificing your own happiness. Through the Living Clarity Podcast, we unravel the motivations behind people-pleasing behaviors often rooted in low self-esteem. We share a poignant story of a college acquaintance whose excessive kindness masked an inner struggle, impacting her relationships profoundly. As we tread through the murky waters of love and infatuation, we uncover how recognizing these patterns can keep us from repeating toxic cycles. The episode shines a light on how perfectionism can paralyze ambition, and the ever-persistent "grass is greener" mentality that blinds us to our own potential for growth.The conversation doesn't stop at emotional struggles; we also examine the deep ties between emotional stress and physical well-being. Anecdotes of wealthy individuals facing stress-related health issues reveal the paradox that happiness, not wealth, is the true measure of longevity. By understanding how mental strain can manifest physically—like using food as a coping mechanism—we stress the importance of nurturing mental health. The episode also addresses the lure of seeking validation on social media and the importance of building genuine self-esteem. Through insights and practical advice, this episode aims to guide you towards a more fulfilling and balanced life.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Can low self-esteem masquerade as introversion? Join us as we unravel this intriguing concept, sharing personal stories of how avoidance often leads to dysfunctional relationships and missed opportunities. We touch on the critical role of self-love in fostering healthy connections, both socially and professionally. As we navigate the complex path from fear of judgment to confident interactions, learn how addressing these issues can lead to meaningful improvements in your life.Thrill-seeking or self-destructive behavior might just be the tip of the self-esteem iceberg. We explore the potential roots of such actions and the importance of understanding one's motives. With anecdotes about everyday habits and the perils of social media comparisons, we highlight the journey to find contentment in personal achievements over societal validation. Dive into a reimagining of success, where personal values trump external standards, and discover the liberating power of aligning your goals with what truly matters to you.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Could the relentless pursuit of external validation be the silent thief of joy among our teenagers? On the Living in Clarity podcast, Coach Ratner, unravel the intricate threads of low self-esteem and its detrimental impact on the mental health of today's youth, particularly girls. Triggered by the alarming 2021 CDC report, we journey through personal narratives and scholarly research to shed light on how societal pressures craft a cycle of anxiety and despair. This episode is a heartfelt call to action, guiding each listener towards the liberating path of self-acceptance and self-love, illuminating the deep-seated connection between emotional and physical well-being.The conversation doesn't stop there. We delve into the world of imposter syndrome, exploring its pervasive nature across professions from comedy to sports. By drawing insights from celebrated figures like Tom Brady and Michael Jordan, I illustrate how this syndrome can paradoxically be both a driving force and an obstacle. Offering practical strategies to overcome these feelings, I highlight the power of humility and the joy of generously sharing success. This episode aims to empower you with the tools to cultivate genuine self-worth, urging you to redefine your identity beyond professional titles and to cherish your innate abilities.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!What if your marriage could not only last a lifetime but also be filled with passion and deep love? Join Coach Ratner as he concludes his audiobook, "Infinite  Marriage," with profound reflections on the art of maintaining a thriving relationship. Through Coach Ratner's personal journey of transforming his written work into an audiobook, you'll uncover practical wisdom and tools essential for navigating the four phases of love. He highlights the significance of effort in marriage and blesses his readers with the hope of achieving an extraordinary partnership with their soulmate.This episode is also sprinkled with touching stories, including a heartwarming tale from the Essentials Program in Jerusalem, where Coach Ratner helped a 78-year-old man find companionship through social media. This narrative beautifully emphasizes that the desire for love and connection knows no age limits. Additionally, get a sneak peek into Coach Ratner’s forthcoming book, "Never Feel Unloved Again," and learn about his innovative plans to refine his writing process. Whether you're seeking relationship guidance or an inspiring story, this episode promises a rich blend of heartfelt insights and uplifting moments.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Can simple acts of affection and genuine appreciation truly transform a marriage? Join us as we explore the profound impact that small gestures and kind words can have on your relationship, without relying on grandiose displays of love. We delve into how consistent affectionate communication, akin to nurturing a child with a kind tone, can positively influence your marriage. This episode offers a deep dive into the four essential elements—attention, affection, appreciation, and awareness—that are crucial for cultivating a passionate and enduring bond with your partner.We also tackle the thorny issue of unchecked egos and their potential harm to marital harmony. Discover how deflating the ego and prioritizing your spouse’s needs can lead to a more fulfilling connection. Through personal stories and practical advice, we illustrate the journey of nurturing everlasting love. Learn about the concept of "sunscreen love" and how continuous effort and commitment can help love grow and deepen over time. Whether you're just starting out on your marital journey or have shared decades together, this episode promises timeless insights to help your love flourish.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Can the smallest gestures really transform your marriage? Join us on the Living in Clarity podcast with Coach Ratner as we uncover the profound impact of understanding and fulfilling your spouse's needs. Through personal stories and thoughtful reflections, we reveal how respecting your partner's preferences—be it their passion for modern dance or their kitchen safety rules—can significantly strengthen your bond. Coach Ratner shares his experiences, underscoring that what matters to your spouse should matter to you, even if it seems trivial, as it's the bedrock of a loving and passionate marriage.Discover the magic of focusing on the "we" instead of the "me" in your relationship. We'll explore how simple acts of attention, affection, and appreciation can transform your marriage. In a world overrun by digital distractions, we offer practical tips to maintain undivided attention, such as eliminating phones and televisions from the bedroom. Understanding the distinct attention needs of men and women, we'll guide you on the path to a more respectful and connected partnership, grounded in the basic principles of civility and mutual respect.Finally, we dive deep into the essential role of emotional connection in preventing infidelity and nurturing marital intimacy. Coach Ratner shares three crucial questions that husbands should ask their wives to foster a deeper bond, touching on the emotional, physical, and intellectual aspects of the relationship. By prioritizing emotional connection and continuous attention within the marriage, couples can reignite passion and prevent the lure of outside emotional stimulation. Reflect on your reactions to seemingly unrealistic advice and embrace the journey toward a more committed and emotionally fulfilling marriage.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Ever wondered how to transform your marriage from "me" to "we"? Join Coach Ratner on the Living in Clarity podcast as we unravel the secrets to enduring love and partnership. This episode dives headfirst into "Never Leaving" the final and most intricate phase of a loving relationship. Discover the life-changing 24-hour rule that helps couples sidestep unnecessary conflicts and learn how to view trivial expenses as a "marriage tax" to preserve harmony. We also delve into the emotional landscape of marriage, illustrating the crushing burden of grudges with a powerful metaphor about a professor and a glass of water.In another riveting segment, we decode the importance of emotional intelligence and intellectual decision-making in relationships. Coach Ratner shares wisdom on speaking thoughtfully, guided by the THINK acronym (True, Helpful, Inspiring, Necessary, Kind), to avoid emotional pitfalls and build stronger bonds. You’ll also hear insightful personal anecdotes and practical advice on effective communication skills. Learn the art of social savviness, knowing when and how to convey your messages for maximum impact and minimal friction. Tune in for a treasure trove of actionable tips that promise to elevate your marital journey and deepen your connection.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Discover how to transform your marriage and reignite the passion with our latest episode of the Living in Clarity Podcast. Have you ever wondered how small changes can make a big impact on your relationship? Today, we uncover the secrets behind maintaining a loving and passionate marriage by focusing on positive communication, the benefits of strenuous exercise, and the power of minor adjustments. Learn how aiming for 100% positivity in your conversations can drastically improve your connection and why regular heart-pumping activities can enhance your mood and energy, revitalizing your marriage.In this episode, we delve into the importance of minor course corrections, likened to the precision required in space missions, to maintain a balanced and passionate relationship. We'll explore practical solutions such as regular date nights and embracing periods of separation, and even dive into ancient traditions like the Jewish laws of family purity that have been shown to strengthen marital bonds. Gain insights on how to apply these timeless principles to your own relationship to lower divorce rates and rekindle intimacy and passion.Ever wondered how adopting an infinite mindset can benefit your marriage? We take inspiration from Simon Sinek's "The Infinite Game" to discuss the importance of focusing on long-term goals in your relationship. Hear from renowned marriage researcher John Gottman, who reveals how recognizing and addressing contempt can prevent divorce, and understand the vital balance between enduring short-term pain for long-term happiness. Tune in as we share the complexities and joys of merging two souls into one harmonious union, helping you navigate challenges with foundational love and avoid the pitfalls of divorce.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Ever wondered why some marriages thrive while others fall apart? Join us on the Living in Clarity Podcast as we uncover the crucial steps to building a strong, lasting marriage. We kick off this episode by exploring the Commitment phase, emphasizing the importance of both physical attraction and aligning life goals before saying "I do." Learn how to gauge whether you and your partner are truly compatible by discussing essential priorities like children, leisure, and community involvement. These foundational elements ensure your relationship is built to last through the ups and downs of life.But the journey doesn't end at the altar. This episode also highlights the ongoing effort required to maintain a romantic relationship. Respecting each other's hobbies, decisions, and priorities is key, and we delve into how to navigate these differences effectively. Imagine love as sunscreen at the beach—it needs constant application to prevent it from fading away. Through compelling metaphors and real-life insights, we stress the importance of continuous nurturing. Tune in to hear how to recognize the early signs of a faltering relationship and take proactive steps to avoid the regret and heartache of a love that has burnt away.