Talk Your Poly Off

In the past we've talked about feeling competitive with a meta especially when playing the "compare" game. But in this weeks episode we take it from a different angle! Have you ever felt in competition with your PARTNER? Maybe it's who earns more money or who has more partners but sometimes it happens.We discuss some ways to recognize it and tips to process it and move through. Oh and you don't want to miss this explanation of what an actual "competitive relationship" is according to lgbtawiki.org in Monsuta's intro!~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!For additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon!Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Our Instagram is @TalkYourPolyOff.For the kinkier polyamorists, cum join our TYPO Kinkster Fetlife GroupAlso, check out our Twitter, @TalkYourPolyOff.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally,As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at talkyourpolyoff@gmail.comorText us or leave us a voicemail!TYPO Phone (209) 536-TYPO (8976)

Monsuta takes the reigns and flies solo for this week's discussion. This week is answering questions from the TYPO phone, from first dates to breakups. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!For additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon!Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Our Instagram is @TalkYourPolyOff.For the kinkier polyamorists, cum join our TYPO Kinkster Fetlife GroupAlso, check out our Twitter, @TalkYourPolyOff.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally,As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at talkyourpolyoff@gmail.comorText us or leave us a voicemail!TYPO Phone (209) 536-TYPO (8976)

We will be off this week. Taking a vacation this week. Sorry and thank you! Love you!

Being at a place today where our relationship is stable and healthy and we feel pretty confident in our relationship skills its easy to forget some of the struggles and difficult feelings that came up in the early days. The anxiety around dating a new person when you already have a partner. Or the fear around sex with someone new. So many speed bumps to maneuver when you are first moving from monogamy to polyamory and today we talk about and share some of our experiences getting over those speed bumps.  ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!For additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon!Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Our Instagram is @TalkYourPolyOff.For the kinkier polyamorists, cum join our TYPO Kinkster Fetlife GroupAlso, check out our Twitter, @TalkYourPolyOff.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally,As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at talkyourpolyoff@gmail.comorText us or leave us a voicemail!TYPO Phone (209) 536-TYPO (8976)

Today we have a question from an anonymous TYPO Phone caller which we felt could be a whole episode on its own.What's the first thing that comes to mind when someone mentions they're a swinger? It's often times some 60s or 70s house key party. And while we love a good house party... this doesn't quite capture the full essence of swinging.We want to help discuss swinging in a way to bring some enlightenment around today's question, which is a perfect example of someone trying to break out of the comfort zone society created. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!For additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon!Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Our Instagram is @TalkYourPolyOff.For the kinkier polyamorists, cum join our TYPO Kinkster Fetlife GroupAlso, check out our Twitter, @TalkYourPolyOff.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally,As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at talkyourpolyoff@gmail.comorText us or leave us a voicemail!TYPO Phone (209) 536-TYPO (8976)

Many of us grew up being told and believing that in order for things to be "fair" they needed to be equal. For those who are perhaps a little younger this reminds me of those participation trophies. However, as we've grown up, we've realized that not everyone needs the same things in life. While one person might need the validation of a participation trophy another person may need to be challenged and earn their 1st place ribbon. It's all based on individual circumstances. That's how equity in relationships works! One partner wont have the same needs, wants, or desires so dishing it out the same and treating all partners equally may not get you the desired result you thought you were working for and it may not make each partner happy. Tune in on your favorite podcast platform to listen in as Bella and Monsuta talk relationship equity this week!~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!For additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon!Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Our Instagram is @TalkYourPolyOff.For the kinkier polyamorists, cum join our TYPO Kinkster Fetlife GroupAlso, check out our Twitter, @TalkYourPolyOff.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally,As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at talkyourpolyoff@gmail.comorText us or leave us a voicemail!TYPO Phone (209) 536-TYPO (8976)

Building an intimate relationship often needs all parties involved to show some level of intimacy. To open up and let others in is being vulnerable but in order to do that there needs to be things like trust and acceptance which happen to be key factors in building intimacy. So in this episode we visit how vulnerability and intimacy go hand in hand and how they impacted our weekend trip away to Bend, Oregon. For more information on intimacy here are a few places to start:8 Books on Sex and Intimacy, recommended by sex educator Dawn Serra. This list includes inclusive, empowering titles such as “Ecstasy Is Necessary” by Barbara Carrellas.5 Relationship Books That Will Profoundly Change the Way You Love, a list compiled by relationship coach Kyle Benson. This list includes books that aren’t only focused on sex and romance, like the self-development book “SuperBetter” by Jane McGonigal.Consider individual and relationship therapy. By working with a therapist one-on-one, a family therapist, or a couples counselor, you can get some personalized insight on intimacy. Here’s information on finding a therapist and some affordable therapy options for every budget.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!For additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon!Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Our Instagram is @TalkYourPolyOff.For the kinkier polyamorists, cum join our TYPO Kinkster Fetlife GroupAlso, check out our Twitter, @TalkYourPolyOff.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally,As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at talkyourpolyoff@gmail.comorText us or leave us a voicemail!TYPO Phone (209) 536-TYPO (8976)

Back to the TYPO Phone! This week we have some questions ranging from why so many people struggle with kitchen table poly, a question around a partner breaking their "rules", one about pet names for partners and we have a great discussion on all things in between. No matter where you are starting on your polyamory journey we all have questions, big or small someone has probably been there before and struggled with the same thing. We want to make sure you know you aren't alone.Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!For additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon!Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Our Instagram is @TalkYourPolyOff.For the kinkier polyamorists, cum join our TYPO Kinkster Fetlife GroupAlso, check out our Twitter, @TalkYourPolyOff.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally,As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at talkyourpolyoff@gmail.comorText us or leave us a voicemail!TYPO Phone (209) 536-TYPO (8976)

Have you ever been hanging out for a game night with a group of friends and the question comes up..."so you have a girlfriend AND a boyfriend, how does that work?" Or maybe it's the holiday season and you want to discuss bringing multiple partners over to meet the family. Or maybe it's even a stranger in the park watching an ethical triad raise and parent a child together and they come over to ask some questions. How do you handle the questions? How do you talk about polyamory with outsiders? Join us for that exact conversation in todays episode!Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!For additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon!Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Our Instagram is @TalkYourPolyOff.For the kinkier polyamorists, cum join our TYPO Kinkster Fetlife GroupAlso, check out our Twitter, @TalkYourPolyOff.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally,As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at talkyourpolyoff@gmail.comorText us or leave us a voicemail!TYPO Phone (209) 536-TYPO (8976)

Thinking back over the years there have been many times where a new meta is entering the picture and all those insecurities pop up which then creates this "perfect" image in our head of who our meta is. "Oh they have a better job than I do so they must be better." "They are skinnier than I am therefore a better partner.". These thoughts of ours cause us to often times be intimidated by a new meta. Sometimes we are the intimidating one and don't even realize it. In todays episode we will talk about all of that and more!Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!For additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon!Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Our Instagram is @TalkYourPolyOff.For the kinkier polyamorists, cum join our TYPO Kinkster Fetlife GroupAlso, check out our Twitter, @TalkYourPolyOff.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally,As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at talkyourpolyoff@gmail.comorText us or leave us a voicemail!TYPO Phone (209) 536-TYPO (8976)

Have you ever told a friend or family member that you're polyamorous and they spit back some misconception or myth they heard about what that means? Maybe you're newly interested in this lifestyle and have come across some of these myths in your online reading. However you stumbled across these we thought we would give our take on them. And if you've got a story to share with us about a polyam myth, please shoot us a text or email because we want to hear it!Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!For additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon!Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Our Instagram is @TalkYourPolyOff.For the kinkier polyamorists, cum join our TYPO Kinkster Fetlife GroupAlso, check out our Twitter, @TalkYourPolyOff.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally,As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at talkyourpolyoff@gmail.comorText us or leave us a voicemail!TYPO Phone (209) 536-TYPO (8976)

Self sabotage is the topic this week and it's something we've probably all experienced at some point, even if we weren't aware of it in the moment. Why do we do it? How can we stop doing it? We cover all that and more! If you're enjoying the show please share it with a friend! Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!For additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon!Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Our Instagram is @TalkYourPolyOff.For the kinkier polyamorists, cum join our TYPO Kinkster Fetlife GroupAlso, check out our Twitter, @TalkYourPolyOff.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally,As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at talkyourpolyoff@gmail.comorText us or leave us a voicemail!TYPO Phone (209) 536-TYPO (8976)

Well it's been quite the week over here in TYPO land. Monsuta lost his job and Bella is wrapping up her first week on her preop liquid diet! There's a lot going on and this week we discuss how to support your partner(s) during the big and small changes that happen in life. How to show support and how to ask for support all while plans could change in an instant. Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!For additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon!Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Our Instagram is @TalkYourPolyOff.For the kinkier polyamorists, cum join our TYPO Kinkster Fetlife GroupAlso, check out our Twitter, @TalkYourPolyOff.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally,As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at talkyourpolyoff@gmail.comorText us or leave us a voicemail!TYPO Phone (209) 536-TYPO (8976)

We tackle a little Q & A from the listeners today all centered around your partner spending time with their other partners. How do you spend your alone time? How do you handle intimacy or a meta's privacy? Do you have questions you want our help with? Leave us a voicemail or text us at (209) 536-8976!Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!For additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon!Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Our Instagram is @TalkYourPolyOff.For the kinkier polyamorists, cum join our TYPO Kinkster Fetlife GroupAlso, check out our Twitter, @TalkYourPolyOff.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally,As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at talkyourpolyoff@gmail.comorText us or leave us a voicemail!TYPO Phone (209) 536-TYPO (8976)

Ear ducks, dating, gaming and miniatures and a little light hearted chat this week with Monsuta and Bella! You never know where you'll end up with this episode. Join us for some much needed laughs and awkward dating questions as we step back from the heavy personal development theme for a moment. Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!For additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon!Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Our Instagram is @TalkYourPolyOff.For the kinkier polyamorists, cum join our TYPO Kinkster Fetlife GroupAlso, check out our Twitter, @TalkYourPolyOff.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally,As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at talkyourpolyoff@gmail.comorText us or leave us a voicemail!TYPO Phone (209) 536-TYPO (8976)

Have you ever sat back and were really mindful about how your body physically feels your emotions? Thought work has become a huge part of our daily lives over the last year or so and we wanted to take this opportunity to talk a little bit about how your thoughts create your feelings which cause an action which give you a result leading to your beliefs. It's an endless circle and we go into all of it! Let's say you understand this cycle and now it's time to actually process through some of those feelings you're having. It's a difficult thing to do, pause and take time to really understand what you're feeling and why. Hopefully what we are talking about hits home for some of you!Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!For additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon!Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Our Instagram is @TalkYourPolyOff.For the kinkier polyamorists, cum join our TYPO Kinkster Fetlife GroupAlso, check out our Twitter, @TalkYourPolyOff.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally,As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at talkyourpolyoff@gmail.comorText us or leave us a voicemail!TYPO Phone (209) 536-TYPO (8976)

If you've been around the polyam community for any length of time you've heard people say "communication is key" or "you wont be successful without communication". Well there's more to it than just communicating and that includes actually understanding and processing what your partner is telling you. They can tell you all day long what they want or need but you need to be able to comprehend the message being sent to you. In this weeks episode we cover just that! Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!For additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon! Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Our Instagram is @TalkYourPolyOff.For the kinkier polyamorists, cum join our TYPO Kinkster Fetlife GroupAlso, check out our Twitter, @TalkYourPolyOff.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally, As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at talkyourpolyoff@gmail.comorText us or leave us a voicemail!TYPO Phone (209) 536-TYPO (8976)

Welcome to our B&B episode! No, not bed and breakfast....baggage and boundaries! If you're a human adult, you've got baggage! Join the club, it's nothing to hide or be ashamed of and actually the more open and honest you can be about your history and baggage the more likely your partner is to understand you and where you come from. In this episode we give our advice on how to use that past baggage to help you create healthy boundaries.Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!For additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon! Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Our Instagram is @TalkYourPolyOff.For the kinkier polyamorists, cum join our TYPO Kinkster Fetlife GroupAlso, check out our Twitter, @TalkYourPolyOff.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally, As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at talkyourpolyoff@gmail.comorText us or leave us a voicemail!TYPO Phone (209) 536-TYPO (8976)

Have you ever sat down and reflected internally to really examine what your wants and needs are when it comes to relationships? Sure we understand a need as necessary for survival and a want is just an enhancement but how does that relate to relationships? Bella and Monsuta talk about just that for this special episode that just so happens to release on our 4 year anniversary! (Please ignore the sound of the washer in the audio, we didn't realize that would come through in the audio but, well vibrations...)Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!For additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon! Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Our Instagram is @TalkYourPolyOff.For the kinkier polyamorists, cum join our TYPO Kinkster Fetlife GroupAlso, check out our Twitter, @TalkYourPolyOff.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally, As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at talkyourpolyoff@gmail.comorText us or leave us a voicemail!TYPO Phone (209) 536-TYPO (8976)

Continuing this season of personal development we jump into a conversation around ego, the good and bad! Do you have some experience with your ego getting in the way? Tell us about it, give us some feedback, or reach out and say hi!Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!For additional episodes and content, come join us on social media!Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Our Instagram is @TalkYourPolyOff.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally,As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at talkyourpolyoff@gmail.comText us or leave us a voicemail!TYPO Phone (209) 536-TYPO (8976)